#TBHThursday is a series I have been wanting to start here on the blog for quite some time now but for whatever reason I just never got to it. I want #TBHThursday to be a place where we can chat about just about anything. A place for us moms ( and non-moms as well) to rant about all things motherhood, fitness, dating, marriage and everything else in between. Always with the intention of being honest and encouraging to one another by admitting that we don’t have it all together. Cause #TBH I honestly don’t lol.
Let’s talk about it..
Todays topic is raising a pre-teen. Ayyy! Raise your hand if you too are in the midst of raising a 12-13 year old? I know girl, I know! Evan has only been 12 for a week and half and already I feel like he has turned into a whole different kid. It’s like the moment he turned 12 something in his brain said ” I am grown now and I can do as I please” Uh excuse me little boy but how bout NO!
For the most part Evan has always been an exceptional kid. So well behaved, never in trouble at school, great manners and always so respectful. But of course, I knew this wouldn’t exactly last forever. Or better yet, I knew this would all kinda change when the “teen years” came. I can hear my mom and dad saying, “just you wait, Lilly. You’ll really get a taste of parenting when he starts entering adolescence”. Boy were mom and dad right.
“These new feelings, physically changes etc, are all new to him and he is just now learning to deal with it all”
It feels like I am getting at Evan for everything these days. And at the same time it feels like he’s always bothered or annoyed at something or someone. Thank you hormones! It feels like I am entering new territory and I am grabbing on to the side rail as I go, tryin not to fall.
#TBH I am NOT ready for it. Not ready for him crushing on that one little girl. Totally not ready for him to start wanting to hang out at his friends over his family every single day. Not ready for him to ride his bike to and from school everyday. I know y’all think I am crazy, but guys his school is not exactly down the street and he has to cross major traffic intersections at least twice with no cross guards on site! I am also definitely not ready for the amount of food this kid is consuming!! LOL! I mean the kid is eating it ALL! But that is the least of my concerns.
So what am I really afraid of?
I’ve started to feel like the close knit relationship I have formed with my kid for the past 12 years has somehow started to change. And I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t afraid to lose it completely. But at the same time I feel like I am doing a good job, for the most part, of learning how to communicate with Evan in a different way. Because after all, and as much as I may hate it, he isn’t that little kid anymore. And he does not want to be treated as such.
It’s all so crazy and new to me, but I’ve gotta remind myself that it is also new to him. These new feelings & physically changes are all new to him and he is just now learning to deal with it all. I have to remind myself to be patient and loving and to always, no matter how much things change, remind him who he is in God’s eyes.
For now, I am going to ignore the eye rolls, attitude changes, silent treatments and excessive eating and focus on loving him throught them. But don’t mistake my kindness for weakness, cause this mama don’t play games either. The moment I sense disrespect or broken rules, you better believe there will be consequences. This week, it’s no Xbox or riding bike to school. Trust me, he ain’t too thrilled about mama having to drop him off in the morning while all his friends ride together.
What are some things you are dealing with right now? It doesn’t have to be a pre-teen or teenager issue. Maybe your three year old is driving you nuts, maybe your picky eater is getting the best of you. And if you do have a pre-teen or teenager, share any tips or experience you may have. I’d love to hear t all. Join the conversation and let me know in the comment section below.
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