When I started Daily Craving 4 years ago I was in a very dark place in my life. I was newly out of a battle with postpartum depression and feeling very much like a baby who’s starting to see the world. Something like waking up from a deep deep sleep and finally realizing that there was a world out there. That there were things to be happy about. Friends to connect with and so much more.
*Update 4/15/2020: Now more than ever during this world health crisis, I think it is so important to stay in touch with our closest friends. Make it a point to check up on them. Whether it’s by text, FaceTime, phone call or even through social media. Our friendships right now are so important for our mental and emotional health and are what is going to help us get through this new life of social distancing.
I met Elly Brown in January of 2015, a year after I started my blog. Meeting Elly was a blessing in disguise..I’ll get more int that later in this post. Elly and I quickly connected. We both had two boys and were in the beginning stages of creating our dream jobs and brands as fashion/lifestyle bloggers. And so we did. For the last three years we have worked together in learning the industry. From the most minuscule details of blogging to the biggest more complex ones. We’ve given each other constructive criticism, taken each others photos and been each other dates for events. Attended conferences together and stayed up wayyy past our bedtime googling this and that and figuring things out along the way.
Her friendship is definitely something that I needed in my life. Not only for work support purposes but for much deeper reasons. She’s a woman of God. She speaks life into me and and has reminded me in my toughest times that I am stronger than what I think I am. Never have I ever felt judged by her. I am able to come undone in front of her and all I get is patience, a listening ear and life changing advice.
All this to say that the friendships we allow into our life are so important. We were not created to do life alone guys. We weren’t created to be independent, we were made to live in a loving dependency upon God and in a loving and humble interdependency with others. Yet pop culture and just the new millennial way of thinking has us believing that we have all that we need within ourselves. So often I see people on social media saying things like ” I don’t need anybody in my life” or “all I need is me myself and I” and I promise you it makes me so sad that people are actually living with this kind of mentality when it comes to friendship.
I’ll be the first to admit that in my early 20’s I had friends who brought nothing but trouble into my life, and my marriage. People who made me feel less than. Friends who gave me the whole ” F**K him girl, you do you” kinda advice when I’d vent about my husband. See, they weren’t doing anything for me. They were bringing me down and draining my energy instead of lifting me up and making me better. I will also admit that this made me fall into the trap of “I don’t need people in my life”.
This is when Elly came into the picture. The value of her friendship made me realize that I DO in fact need friends in my life. I’ve learned more about friendship from this girl that from every single friend I’ve made during my life span. I’ve become a better friend myself. A better wife and better person overall. Plus I firmly believe that God sent her and Jordan into my life and Erick’s life as well, to lead us to Him. Which has been life changing. And now, me leading my siblings to accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. How amazing is this?
Today I want to encourage you to seek uplifting, honest, and life changing friendships. Because the truth is we need each other. God gave us each other to walk alongside, love and encourage one another. I read this excerpt the other day and it really stuck with me: We are to carry each others burdens (Galatians 6:2) care for each others practical needs (Romans 12:13, Hebrews 13:16), warn each other of sin (1 Thessalonians 5:14) and rejoice and mourn with each other (Romans 12:15)
If you’re feeling alone, stressed and uneasy during this time of quarantine, be sure to reach out to at least one friend. We are being ordered to practice physical social distancing NOT to completely stop socializing with each other.
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