Things Time Has Taught Me About Marriage & My Husband

Marriage advice

“A great marriage is not when the “perfect couple” comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences”

Today more than ever I believe this to be true. 9 years of marriage and 2 of dating didn’t happen for nothing. As many of you know, Erick & I started our life together at a very young age. no doubt we were madly in love and had big dreams, but we were just a couple of kids with so much to learn about life and marriage.

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Here’s a few things time has taught me about marriage & my husband…


It’s a commitment – you must commit each and every day to act in loving ways, and to be forgiving and understanding of one another despite the situation. For better or for worse.

It isn’t perfect– There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage, it’s scary, I know, but it’s true. Sure there will be beautiful wonderful times, but there will also be very difficult, sometimes unimaginable times. Happiness will come and go and you can’t let that break you. You have to learn to intentionally do things that will bring that happiness back when life gets too tough.

Your attitude matters – This is very important, remember, you reap what you sow! A bad attitude will always draw bad feelings. The way you talk to your spouse will determine how he perceives you.

You have to keep falling in love with each other – This one has been the hardest but most important thing I’ve learned. You have to remember that with time comes growth and change. You’ve gotta be willing to embrace those changes and fall in love all over again with each passing year. One thing I know is, his mind might change regarding certain things, his dreams might not always be aligned with mine, but his heart will always be the same.

Communication is key – We’ve been down both roads, and let’s just say that when we were lacking communication weather because of our “busy” schedules or lack of interest, things went south rrrreal quick!


My Husband

Can I just start off by saying how incredibly lucky I am to be this man’s wife! He isn’t perfect but he has a heart the size of the world and if there’s anything he’s never failed at, it’s making me feel loved. A few things I’ve learned about this hunk…

He makes mistakes – he does, and so do I. I’ve had to learn that he too isn’t perfect and that I can’t expect him to always be.

He’s patient, loving and kind – pretty much the definition of love, right? These are just a few of the many great things I’ve learned from him. Especially the patience part…currently still working on it haha!

He’s definitely from Mars lol! – It might be that or just he’s wired differently, but man oh man sometimes he drives me nuts! Haha, I love you honey♥

He’s my best friend – he’s got my back ALL the time. Believes in me when no one else does, laughs, cry, and dreams with me & lifts my spirits when I’m down.

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Honey, thank you for always being so willing, patient and loving towards me, I love you more than words can say. Also, thank you so much for agreeing to take these pictures even though we all know how uncomfortable being photographed makes you. How you dislike when you don’t have a fresh haircut, when your beard isn’t perfectly trimmed or your outfit “just sucks” lol. To me you are the most handsome man alive, today and always;)lilly-0777things I've learned about marriage

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  1. December 22, 2016 / 8:37 am

    This is so sweet! I’ve been married 29 years and agree with everything you said. 🙂

    • December 22, 2016 / 5:50 pm

      Aw thank you Stacey! Coming from someone who’s been married for that long gives me comfort and reassures me that I’m in the right path. Thank you for reading!

      Xo, Lilly

  2. December 22, 2016 / 11:58 pm

    LOVED this post. and love you guys! Hope you guys have a great Christmas!

    • Lilly@DCarving
      December 27, 2016 / 4:00 pm

      Thank you! Love you!!

  3. Lilly@DCarving
    January 17, 2017 / 2:17 pm

    It really is, thank you, Liz!